Many women find talk a greatturn-on. For them, talking and feeling
loved are very important. Good conversationduring walks or while the
couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his
woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is
with her mentally during those intimate moments.
Many women are anxious about their looks
For a couple that has been together for long, sometimesit is natural
that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring.
Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness.
Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say
she's gorgeous if she isn't, nor is there a need to say that sheis not
attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do
find attractive.
For a woman sex isn't separate from rest of her life
On the other hand, men tendto compartmentalise, feeling that stressful
aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual
activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to
have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly
influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude
tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman
to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.
An orgasm is not a necessity
Many men feel that a good lover is one who can bring his woman to
climactic sexualculmination. It is great to have such moments, but
aren't always essential. Many women feel pressure from partners and
even fromthemselves to reach an orgasm. Sometimes instead of having
orgasms, women prefer to engage in just foreplay.
Sex need not be a serious act
Playfulness is a great quality. Many men are far tooserious about sex.
They forget to laugh, be romantically mischievous, have fun.
Playfulness and light-heartedness can make intimate moments enjoyable
and relaxing. This takes performance pressure off from both partners.
Women cherish non-sexual touching and tenderness
Women love romance, cuddling, hand-holding and kissing. But many women
complain that their men never do this except during foreplay. A woman
should make her man realise the joyof touching. As you give him a
relaxing massage and stroke his face and hair tenderly, he starts
experiencing the joy of this kind of non-sexual touching.Tell your man
what makes you feel loved and wanted.
Warm attention after sex is important
A woman's need for tender moments goes beyond the actual lovemaking.
Some women complain that men fall asleep immediately after the act. It
is true that when a man is having sex, his endorphin level is very
high.Almost immediately after ejaculation, he goes througha refractory
phase where heloses his erection and all hissystems gear down. In
females this phase happens gradually. However, if you don't like him
falling asleep immediately, tell him without putting him down.
Alternatively, let him sleep inyour arms for a few minutes and gently
wake him up afterwards.
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